Forces of attraction leave me searching for more

Physical vs. Emotional attraction... it's been a dilemma for me in my dating blunders. When I have a really cosmic strong connection in one of these two arenas the other side always seems to be lacking. I wish I didn't need a solid balance of both but I do!

Recently a friend, who I think is truly wonderful, started asking me out on dates. Sometimes these situations are great and lead to nice relationships - but in this case I couldn't switch my friend gear. The physical attraction is simply not there for me and I don't think I can really do anything about it. It's frustrating to find a spirit that I connect with and have to walk away.

My frustration with this situation makes me think of one of my favorite Savage Love sayings - "every relationship you're in is the wrong one - until it's not"

There's a reason all my relationships up until now haven't been the right one - I'm learning patience and spending the time I need to learn and love my MEtime self. Patience is never easy but I think keeping high standards are always worth it!

On the positive side, I called my friend out on his change of tune and told him I was thankful for our friendship and wanted to keep things as such. He quickly responded to my email with a cheerful, complementary acceptance of my wishes and I think we'll be able to hang out again soon... oh the wonderful things you can say over email that seem too big and difficult to say in 'real' life...