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To avoid repeating this cycle, I took matters into my own hands. Literally. I bought myself a ring. For those same months I had been struggling with jealousy, I'd also been pining over a really unique ring at an antique store. I daydreamed about describing my love of this ring to the great guy - you know, the one who would pick it up and pretend it had been sold, only to surprise me with it when I had a bad day.
Then it struck me. I'm single. I don't have kids. I don't have a boyfriend for whom to buy presents. I don't drink or spend money frivolously. Don't, don't, don't... yet perspective is everything. This all makes it possible to do.
I do work hard. I do love this ring. I did get it. Because I do love myself and do believe I deserve it because it captures that moment where I realized I can provide for myself and change my circumstance- even if it is in a unconventional manner.
So flash your bling ladies. I get it now- it's a reminder of the moment you received it. Hopefully you, like me, will realize- you don't have to wait for someone else to make that moment happen.
This post makes me so happy! You're a powerful lady who can treat yourself to nice things. Doesn't it feel great to put matters into your own hands?
ReplyDeleteI recently did the same thing - I was getting tired of paying attention to peoples' left ring finger. I'm not sure if my root feeling was jealousy or curiosity or if I have been subconsciously taking a tally in my mind of all the women who are in this 'club' that I'm missing out on. Very strange thoughts run through my head when i think about wedding rings - I want to pretend they aren't there but - alas that never works. So should I ignore them? No - just recognize my thoughts by claiming a piece of the pie for myself.
With this little ring on my right hand I feel like I've kind of made a commitment to myself. I want to remember to take care of myself even when it seems like there's no room in my schedule.
I read about an artist who went through a ceremony to marry herself and had a big celebration of friendship through the process - pretty awesome if you ask me!
So bottom line - you're awesome Rita and I look forward to checking out your right hand!
I've been so behind on reading this blog and commenting so I've been reading back and catching up. And...I love this post. It reminds me of when Carrie registers herself at Manolo Blahnik to celebrate her singledom.
ReplyDeleteI actually did something similar this past week. There was a necklace I spotted while in DC last month. I loved it but talked myself out of buying because "I didn't NEED it". Well, that's true - I didn't need it. But I decided I EARNED it after a very successful event I produced out there, so I bought it. Wore it proudly on Monday and was greeted with many compliments. :)
Ritzy...post some pics of this beautiful ring!!
You can see it in this gorgeous picture of my little niece (although it is hard to focus on next to that baby)!
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